Romantic Life & Long-term vs. Short-term Orientation

The concept of long-term and short-term relationships is something I only became familiar with after coming to Japan. In my home country, not many people talk about whether a relationship is meant to be short-term or long-term. I used to believe that all relationships should naturally aim for the long term. To me, if a relationship is only based on physical attraction or temporary emotions, then it probably shouldn’t have started in the first place. I think couples should be clear from the beginning about whether they’re serious and potentially looking toward marriage. If the answer is no, then I don’t really see the point. In my view, using “short-term” as a reason to avoid commitment sounds more like an excuse, and I believe putting desire above your future is not the right path.

Romantic life in Indonesia isn’t very different from Japan in terms of public behavior, but it’s quite different compared to many European countries. For instance, when we’re in a relationship, showing affection in public usually means holding hands or giving a kiss on the cheek. Anything more than that is often seen as inappropriate or too forward.

According to Hofstede’s cultural dimensions theory, Indonesia tends to lean more toward long-term orientation. This means that people often value persistence, loyalty, and planning for the future—especially in relationships. On the other hand, cultures with short-term orientation, like some Western countries, may place more importance on the present, personal happiness, or short-term gains. Understanding this difference helped me realize why some people might be more comfortable with casual or short-term relationships. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re wrong—it just reflects the values and expectations shaped by their culture.

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  1. AnonymousJune 30, 2025 at 11:14 PM

    This is a very thoughtful reflection. I really appreciate how you tied your personal views to Hofstede’s cultural dimensions, it adds a lot of depth. I can relate to your surprise about short-term relationships; in my culture too, relationships are generally expected to move toward long-term commitment, so the idea of openly labeling something as “short-term” feels a bit foreign.

    I also like how you acknowledged that these differences aren’t necessarily right or wrong but are shaped by cultural values. It’s a very mature perspective

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