Parenting & Indulgence vs. Restraint

Parenting is a big thing and will always be. Peoples have different ways to educate their children, and there is no absolute correct ways to do it. It always depend on the environment, and what kind of a person that their parents want their children to be. I would say that i didn't really know how Indonesian parents raise their children, because again each of them has their own ways, but base on my experience is that my parents raise me to become masculine and teaches a lot about leadership and independence. I can relate to that because im the oldest son and they think that i need to be prepared to lead my own family and also have responsibilities to my siblings in the future. For Japan parenting pov, i would say that they are trying to do the same thing, especially about independence. I've seen multiple times that child from a very young age like around 5yo going to their school alone without having any adults as their companion, one crazy thing is that i've seen elementary school students, not more than 8yo "maybe" is going to metro with his phone and bag.

Indulgence and restraint is a way people decide what will be their behaviour, habbit, and approach to different things. My understanding on hofstede concept in this topic is that restrict societies tends to have more formal, and calculated life while indulgence societies decide by their needs, and desires then flow with what life gives afterwards. Im thinking that society have to adopt "indulgence" rather than "restrict", adopting indulgence here doesn't mean that letting your desires take over, but just stay in the present moment and life with more freedom to yourself. This point can be proven by looking at the most happiest country like Finland, their society mostly adopting indulgence. Optimist attitude, more extrovert, actively participate in sports are things that we can find in their society. Of course not all of the side of indulgence societies is best, actually more obese people are found in the indulgence society, and they can be also be seen as the kind of people that are not very discipline. But again, we dont have to be one sided here, but rather apply the positives from both to be in a society that we wanted to be.